Personal and Social Development

School counselors support the emotional needs of students as they endure the drastic social, physical, and personal changes that are characteristic of adolescence. This includes education in topics related to bully and violence prevention, acceptance and diversity, conflict resolution, and decision making. Counselors are available in times of crisis, liaisons to community resources, and advocates for students’ emotional well being as they try to maintain success in school. Counselors also support the emotional needs of students during transition, including those new to the district.

Understanding and Coping With Emotions

Emotion pyramid
feelings illustration


Middle school is a time where students experience new found independence. As a result, they have more opportunities to make decisions and hopefully take personal responsibility for the decisions they make. Decisions are often based on one’s values, which are the foundation for one’s character. Every good decision is practice for future decisions. At PPMS, we teach our students how to make effective decisions using the following Decision Making Model.

Decision process

Conflict Resolution

Conflict resolution skills are helpful in ensuring a respectful and safe community. The way that students respond to conflict directly impacts future conflicts. The Conflict Cycle below shows how the way in which we manage conflict is part of a cycle. Assertive responses have better results than passive or aggressive responses.

conflict resolution chart

Students at PPMS are taught positive conflict resolution skills in order to keep themselves and our community safe. The diagram below illustrates the skills that students are taught to help guide them through challenging conflicts.

conflict resolution chart 2
conflict resolution options

Web Resources



This site contains basic information about this organization which assists adults and teens with alcohol related concerns. It includes 20 questions designed to help you decide whether or not you need Al-Anon, 20 questions designed to help teenagers decide whether or not Alateen is for them.

Alcoholics Anonymous
This link is to the teen section of the well known twelve step program for treatment of alcoholism.

Web of Addictions
The Web of Addictions is dedicated to providing accurate information about alcohol and other drug addictions. It has links to treatment organizations and organizations promoting prevention of substance abuse.

Anti-Drug Information
This site offers drug information for parents and students alike. There is access to other links that allows individuals to learn from other peoples experiences related to this issue. Excellent link to treatment sites across the country. Highly recommended!!!
Provides detailed information about all of the Addiction Resource Council programs as well as providing links to other related websites including the National Council on Alcohol and Drug Addiction, The Center for Substance Abuse Prevention, the Wisconsin Department of Transportation and others.

Your Choice
Your Choice-Live is a drug and alcohol awareness program for our youth, presented by young adults who share their personal experience with the choices they each made regarding drugs and alcohol during their own school days.

Anger Management

Anger Management
This site, designed by the American Psychological Association (APA), gives practical information about the nature of anger, strategies to cope more effectively with anger, and resources for getting help with anger issues. Check it out if anger seems to be getting the better of you.


The Child Anxiety Network

Provides thorough, user-friendly information about child anxiety.

Freedom From Fear
Provides information on anxiety and depression. Includes links to screenings, referral resources, and treatment ideas.

Attention Deficit Disorder

Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD or ADHD) is a disorder that affects many students while attending school. Students who struggle with this may experience frustration while trying to learn and maintain behavior in their classes. Often times, students can experience feelings of failure due to the obstacles that result from ADD or ADHD. A great deal of research has been done to aid in the success of students who struggle with ADD or ADHD. The following are links that can lead to a wealth of information and resources for assistance.

About ADD A comprehensive website that touches on many issues related to ADD including information on medication, facts, symptoms, and frequently asked questions. .

Living with ADD
Find out what it's like live with ADD! Learn some ways to live with ADD in a non-ADD world! Buy books about ADD! Read personal ADD Stories!

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Library
Over 80 pages of detailed and interesting information on ADHD for parents, teachers, and health professionals

Bully Prevention – see Bully Prevention Folder for a variety of helpful links.


Divorce Aid

Advice for children, teenagers, and parents struggling with divorce.

Print Resources:
Healing Hearts: Helping Children and Adults Heal from Divorce, by Elizabeth Hickey and Elizabeth Dalton. $14.95 (parent resource)

Help! A Girl's Guide to Divorce and Stepfamilies, by Nancy Holyoke. $8.95. (late elementary and middle school years)

Dinosaur Divorce: A Guide to Changing Families, by Laurence Brown. $7.95. (early elementary and preschool)


The Depression Test
Everyone gets blue, but when sad, lonely and hopeless feelings prevent you from getting on with your life, it may be clinical depression. This site allows you to do a free and completely confidential screening for depression with instant online results.

Freedom from Fear
Anxiety and depression are the most common of all mental illnesses. They affect over 35 million Americans every year. For those suffering from social anxiety, even the simplest of social interactions can be crippling and overwhelming. For more information and screening for anxiety and depression, check out this site.

Eating Disorders

Eating Disorders
Research conducted and supported by the National Institute of Mental Health on causes and treatment of a variety of eating disorders. Teen New Horizons

Mirror, Mirror
Mirror-Mirror is a tribute to individuals who are recovering from eating disorders. In addition to offering definitions, signs, and symptoms, relapse warning signs, and much more, there is a "Survivor's Wall" where visitors have written messages about their own recovery.

Normal In School

NORMAL is a national nonprofit that educates about eating disorders (including binge eating disorder), the therapeutic impact of the arts, self-esteem, body image, family communication and healthy coping skills.


Welcome to GriefNet

GriefNet is an Internet community consisting of more than 30 email support groups and two websites. Our integrated approach to online grief support was developed to provide support to people working through loss and grief issues of all kinds.

Compassionate Friends
The Compassionate Friends is a national nonprofit, self-help support organization which offers friendship and understanding to families who are grieving the death of a child of any age, from any cause. There is no religious affiliation. There are no membership fees or dues, and all bereaved family members are welcome.

Sexual Assault and Rape

Speaking Out About Rape
SOAR is a non-profit organization dedicated to educating society about rape, ensuring victim's rights are protected and helping survivors find their voices to unlock the silence. If you are a survivor, family member of a victim or a friend, check out this site for information.

Sexual Assault and Rape Prevention
This site has helpful information for those that have been victims of sexual assault and rape. It also includes information about ways to reduce the risk of being sexually assaulted and provides helpful tips for being a friend to someone who may have been victimized.

Visual Offender Information Center
The Wisconsin Department of Corrections can provide information for victims of crimes that were committed in Wisconsin. Victims can enroll with the Department of Corrections so as to access case and offender information.

Can I Kiss You?
A web page that focuses on dating, communication, respect, and sexual assault awareness for students.

Waukesha County Public Health STD Clinic - A clinic located in the Waukesha Memorial Hospital that will provide confidential counseling, testing, and treatment of a variety of STD's including HIV. There is a $10.00 fee and services are by appointment only. Please Call 262-896-8450 or 262-896-4747 during clinic hours.


National Stuttering Association – Milwaukee Chapter

The NSA is a nonprofit organization dedicated to bringing hope and empowerment to people who stutter, their families, and professionals through support, education, advocacy and research. The Milwaukee Chapter of the NSA has adult and child/teen support groups.

Suicide Prevention

Suicide Prevention
FAQ on suicide, symptoms of depression and suicidal danger signs, most common misconceptions about suicide, what students should do if a friend had depression, what hospitalization does for depressives and a recommended reading list.